Monday, February 22, 2010

linked continued....

I have been evasive with the details of our link with our birth mother.  Here is what happened last Friday...

As we were visiting with Oma, my cell phone rang, and the number came up as "restricted".  This was my first clue that something was different about the call.  When I answered the phone, and on the other end the person asked to talk with me....I knew.  It was our agency.  It was a social worker that I was unfamiliar with, and again...I knew.  She asked me if it was a good time to talk, and this is when it all becomes fuzzy. She said she had good news, and that we had been picked by a birth mother.  The only thing I remember is saying how happy I was!  Then she asked me if I was sitting down....I thought "Oh my God, if she tells me that the baby has been born I will fall off this chair.".......The baby had been born on Wednesday, and it was a little girl.  I remember walking in circles, and asking her if this was a joke.  I know....not what I thought I would say.....but I was in shock.  All the while my dear husband is standing in front of me asking me who I was talking to.  I eventually just broke down in tears and sobbed the news to him.  We spent the next 20 minutes walking in circles....literally.  In circles around my Oma's bedroom, and she is lying in bed also in tears.

Our birth mom, "B", was 100% sure of her adoption plan.  However, the birth father's "J", MOM was not in favor of the adoption.  This was causing J to waiver in his decision of agreeing to sign any paperwork. So, this is where we began to pray....We prayed all weekend, and asked our family and friends to do the same.  We did not want to get into a situation where the bf contests the adoption.

Prayer works.....

Today I got a call from the sw, and J and family have agreed to the adoption plan, and will sign all necessary papers.  We are over the moon!  On top of that, she called again this evening to tell us that the court date to tpr will be March 5th...next Friday.

Tomorrow we go in for a meeting with our agency, and after that we are going to call the host family, and set up a visit.  It all seems so surreal....If all goes well, we will have baby home by March 12.  I simply can't believe it.  I always told myself that it would never happen....I truly thought it would never happen.  Now that it is here, It does not seem to be real....

We are completely unprepared.  That is how we planned things.  Right now the nursery is still the "dogs room".  At one point I was going to create a cozy little den and paint the walls chocolate brown.  Well, I only got as far as testing the paint.  It looks awful.

So, that is where we stand.  We are still cautious....this is adoption after all, and anything can happen.  We may paint the room, but nothing will be purchased until after the court date next Friday.  At that point, we will get just the necessities....like a car seat!  I have already stopped by Buy, Buy, Baby and taken a look, as well as done a little research on the internet.  Oh, and my weakness is clothing.  I love to shop for clothes.  So, over the weekend I allowed myself to buy a few dresses at the Baby Gap outlet, and two cute outfits at the OshKosh outlet.  I just couldn't help it.  We also need to decide on a name by the weekend...

I really never believed that it would be my turn.

6 comments:

Jodi said...

Oh wow! It is happening so fast! That is so exciting...I'll keep you in my prayers that all goes as planned...and happy shopping! :)

Just Believing said...

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH You brought back so many emotions we had when we got the call our daughter was born! amazing crazy scraed exciting and so thankful!!!

will keep you close in prayer and seriously we had 3 hrs to prepare and had nothing so dont feel bad :) it was kinda nice having our shower after we had the baby cuz everyone got to love on her ;)

Baby Wanted said...

OMGosh! OMGosh! OMGosh! I couldn't be happier for you honey! I can't believe you were matched with a baby that has already been born! That is like winning the lottery! This post truly lifted my spirits (sorry, I know this isn't about me)!

I think your Ota had a hand in this...he is up in heaven orchestrating this with God!

MoserUpdates said...

Oh my gosh, I am so excited for you I am in tears! Congrats and I'll be praying for everything to go smoothly for you!! How sweet :)

Jessica said...

How unbelievably exciting and scary I'm sure! I'll be saying my prayers for you until those most important dates pass and that precious little girl is home. Enjoy getting your house ready. I too have our future baby room as the "animal" room.

Lynnette said...

I am so happy for you...I have been checking to see how things are going. We got the phone call the same way you did and totally not prepared but it will work out.......I am so full of joy for you and your husband...I know you will enjoy every moment...Congratulations